Luscious Metals ~ Luscious Light

February 11, 2014

Dear Valentine,

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Oh Valentine’s Day…you tricky little holiday you. You’d have us believe that it’s all about love; who we love, who loves us, how we love, how much we love… You make it seem as if chocolates and roses and jewelry and fancy meals are the very proof of the existence of all of this love. You put on your fancy costumes of red sparkle, brown shine and pink glitter and you parade yourself through our stores and classrooms and internet whispering things like “love is in the air” and insinuating that we must be shown love from the people in our lives in order to feel loved.
But that’s not quite how it works. It’s not about how much other people love us, it’s about how much we love ourselves. If there are ways in which we don’t, then it will be reflected back to us through our experiences with other people. This is why days like Valentine’s Day can be such a letdown for some of us. The chocolates don’t come or the flowers aren’t pretty enough or someone else is madly in love and we aren’t etc. The love we lack isn’t reflected back to us and we get angry or depressed. But if we spend our time hoping for things and people outside of us to make us feel good then we ostensibly spend our whole lives chasing the dragon. The key is in learning how to provide that love and reflection for yourself.
So I challenge everyone reading this to find at least one way that you aren’t loving yourself right now. One way in which you are obstinately waiting for someone else to make you feel whole. Once you find it, ask yourself this: Can I decide to love myself instead? Am I willing to take responsibility for making myself whole? My Valentine wish for you is that your answers are yes…

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